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Why being "pro-plus size" isn't always a good thing

By 11:00 AM ,
Let me say this - I think that in the past ten years or so, there have been some great improvements in the world of fashion and beauty regarding the previous expectation for women to be impossibly thin and flawless. 

Plus-size women have become infinitely less ridiculed and shamed by the media. Although there's always room for improvement, we've come a long way.

However, dare I say it, I think a lot of the ways we try to incorporate positive body perception are almost counterproductive to what they're aiming to accomplish.

I see it in YouTube videos, photos, and magazine spreads everywhere. A plus-size woman actually showing off her body and appearing to be comfortable in her own skin, rather than hiding behind oversized clothes and steering away from swimsuits.

I look at the comment section, and this is mostly what I see:

"She's so brave! I could never do that."
"I really commend her for doing this. We should all feel comfortable in our own skin!"
"How wonderful that she feels comfortable enough to wear a swimsuit in front of people!"

Now, I don't necessarily think people say these things with any negative intentions. In fact, I think it's quite the opposite. But I don't really think these types of comments are doing anything to help plus size women feel comfortable in their own skin.

Why does it have to be such a miracle for someone who's not a size 2 to wear a swimsuit in public? Why does a plus-size girl have to be "brave" to wear shorts or a tank top in public?

I don't think we as a society are going to make much more of a significant improvement in body image until we stop seeing people wearing what they want in this way. 

I realize that getting these sorts of thoughts out of mind is pretty difficult. As a plus-size girl myself, I've definitely been guilty of thinking to myself in the past, "Wow, I wish I could feel comfortable enough to wear what she's wearing." But it's not helpful to the real issue. And with any issue the world faces, it starts with a few people changing the way they perceive it and spreading their knowledge and insight to others around them.

Remember that regardless of your size, we're all human and we're all entitled to do what we want with our bodies, whether it's cover them up, show them off, or get work done to feel better about ourselves. Being bigger and feeling comfortable in your own skin isn't controversial or breaking the mold, so don't treat it as such! We're all beautiful in our own way.


If you want to check out some blogs that focus on body positivity, definitely check out this one and this!

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  1. This is so true! I have had so many friends do this to me and it's offensive. Plus size, obvious, let's get passed it and just live already :) you are awesome Kelsey!

  2. Agreed! The harder you try to make us feel "normal," the more we'll feel like there's something wrong with us! Thanks, YOU'RE awesome! :)

  3. This is amazing!! I think this is defiantly true! I hear these comments all the time being said to people and it's not great. I have also had comments said to me by friends when with other plus size friends that I shouldn't wear revealing clothes or bikinis in case it knocks their self confidence because I am a size eight. Neither is fair and I hope one day this stops happening. Great post Kelsey I loved it!! X

    1. I'm glad you agree! Thank you so much for reading!