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Why It's Okay To Try

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Recently I've seen a lot of people in the media promoting the "natural beauty" movement for women, encouraging them to feel comfortable baring their naked faces to the public and not feeling the need to try so hard every day to feel beautiful.

John Legend did it in his latest music video for "You And I," as well as Colbie Caillat in her music video for "Try." 

While I absolutely loved these videos and was very much moved by them, something bugs me about this movement and I feel like more women should be talking about it.




I think that feeling comfortable in your natural state is wonderful, but I don't want women to feel discouraged from choosing to express themselves through makeup, clothing, hair styling, etc. 

I've struggled with insecurity my entire life and have finally gotten to a place where I feel somewhat comfortable with myself in my natural state. Granted, I'm always a work in progress, but I feel infinitely more confident makeup-less now than I did when I was a teenager. 

But makeup is an art form for me. It's the way I express myself and my creativity. I absolutely love that I can change the way I look with just a few techniques and products. It's therapeutic. And fun!

I don't want to feel like I have to wear makeup to be beautiful, but I also don't want to feel like wearing makeup makes me superficial or insecure.

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If a women feels her most confident and beautiful when she's wearing makeup, there's no problem with that. I think there's a real problem in making women feel like they have to do anything in particular to feel good about themselves, regardless of whether it's wearing makeup or not.

There's definitely a fine line between wearing makeup to enhance features and wearing it to mask yourself, though. That's why we should be teaching women to take baby steps in feeling confident regardless of what they do to their appearance, not just telling them to go makeup-less.

I remember an incident in high school that had a huge impact on how I felt about myself. 

In high school, I always caked on way too much makeup. No one ever saw me wearing anything less than foundation, powder, concealer, eyeshadow, liner, mascara, etc. One day at band camp over the summer, I suddenly felt inclined to go to camp wearing absolutely no makeup.

No one was used to that, so of course everyone made a big deal about it. I remember one girl telling me, "You should definitely stick with makeup."

As soon as it was time for a lunch break, I ran home and put on as much makeup as I could.

Baby steps need to be taken for girls who are insecure. There are a LOT of girls out there who feel like they have to try really hard to be beautiful, and you can't just strip away everything from them and expect them to feel comfortable. It takes a lot of time of working on yourself to get to that point.

The bottom line is, I think we should promote the idea that women should feel free to do whatever they like in order to feel good. 

You shouldn't feel bad about wearing makeup or not wearing it. Just know that feeling comfortable with yourself in whatever state you prefer is what's most important. You don't have to make anyone other than yourself happy, especially regarding your looks. Learning to love yourself is the most important thing.

You don't have to try so hard, but it's okay if you want to at the end of the day.

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What do you guys think? Let me know in the comments!




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  1. I completely agree with this post! Make up can be used for our individuality and make us feel beautiful, so we shouldn't be made to feel bad about using it. I myself don't wear much make up as I don't actually think it suits me haha! But that doesn't mean that I don't love when the people around me wear cool make up etc. Some of my friends love trying out new eye shadow colors and daring lipsticks and sometimes I actually wish I could rock it a bit more!

    Such a great post Kelsey :)

    Hazel Jane xx
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    1. I'm glad to know you agree! I felt pretty strongly about this. Thank you so much, girl!

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