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5 Tips For Confidence

By 8:00 AM

I'm pretty sure that we all struggle with feeling confident at times - some more than others. I used to be horribly insecure in high school, and while I feel tremendously better about myself now, I still struggle with those deep ingrained issues of feeling inadequate. Luckily, I've got a few go-to's that usually make me feel better on dim days. Here's some of my personal tips for feeling confident, even when you're not!

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1. Fake It

This is one of my secret tips that I've just learned within the past few years. It's been a major influence on my confidence in the best way. 

You see, there's a formula for confidence and feeling good. You feel good + you act nicely towards others = others feel better + others enjoy your company more. 

Whenever I was feeling down a few years back, I decided that I was just going to ignore it and pretend that I was confident. I got pretty good at faking it; so good, that people would find it hard to believe when I talked about being insecure. (The high school me is patting me on the back right now!) But I wasn't really. However, when I started exuding confidence in the way I acted, I found that two things happened: the people around me tended to feel better and acted happier, and they also enjoyed my company a lot more. I discovered that a lot of people wanted to hang out with me when I wasn't insecure. And this, in turn, made me feel confident about myself! It made me realize that I had every reason to genuinely be confident. It's funny how things work out sometimes, isn't it?

2. Dress Up

This may not apply to everyone, but for me it's a no-brainer. When I get dressed up and look my best, I automatically feel more confident. There's nothing that some great makeup and an awesome outfit can't fix (well, maybe some, but I digress).

If you haven't considered it, definitely try on days when you just feel down on yourself. It's not a permanent fix, but it helps tremendously.

3. Do something you love

We tend to be the happiest when we do things we love, right? And when we're doing things we love and feel happy, we don't feel so insecure anymore because we're too busy feeling happy. Personally, I love listening to music, painting, writing, playing an instrument, and other things like that. Do whatever you feel passionate about; whatever makes you feel like a million bucks!

4. Spend time with friends

This always works for me. I have a great, large group of friends that I can always count on to crack me up and make me feel good about myself. That's the key thing when it comes to friendships - if they make you laugh and don't make you feel like crap about yourself, they're keepers! And you should definitely turn to those friends when you're feeling insecure or down. Go be goofy with them for awhile and give yourself a break from being stuck in your own head.

5. Love Letter to Yourself

This is kind of cheesy, but I tried it awhile back and it totally works. You can either simply write a letter to yourself or make a list of 10 items, all about why you love yourself. Write down the things that make you special and beautiful, and read them aloud to yourself. I assure you, you'll be smiling in no time. 

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  1. I love this! I have much better confidence than in high school but still struggle every once in a while as well. Great tips, and incredibly helpful!

    1. I do too, I think it's really hard to eliminate all your insecurities from your younger days! Thanks so much, I'm glad you found it helpful!