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The Secret to Getting What You Want

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The other day I was thinking a lot about missed opportunities. I don't know what brought it on, but it's not unusual - I like doing a lot of retrospective thinking.

I thought about the things I never did, the stuff I never acted on, the desire to do something but feeling like it would never happen, And it make me realize that there's something a lot of us aren't doing that we really should be.

Asking for what we want.

You know how the saying goes, "Good things come to those who wait." Well, I used to believe that when I was younger. I figured that if you were a good person and believed that something would happen, the stars would align and good things would just fall right into your lap.

I do wholeheartedly believe that everything happens for a reason and that nothing is purely coincidental; however, I don't see much value in thinking that way anymore.

I don't think good things come to those who wait. I think good things come to those who act on what they want in life. They visualize about it, they act on it, and then good things happen. Things they wanted to happen.

And a major part of not getting the things we want is pretty simply. It's not asking for it.

The thing is, if you don't ask for what you want, there's a 100 percent chance that you'll never get it.

And this can be applied to practically anything. Maybe you want to negotiate your salary at work. Maybe you have a crush on someone and want to ask them out, but you've convinced yourself that they'll reject you. Maybe you messed up on an assignment at school and you're afraid to ask the teacher if you can fix your mistakes.

Well, the worst thing that could happen is that they say no. 

And that's it.

Maybe you won't get a salary increase. Maybe your crush won't say yes. Maybe your teacher won't give you a second chance. But how would you have known it wouldn't happen if you didn't try?

I've been surprised on many occasions by getting what I wanted just because I asked for it. It's such a simple idea that most people don't even think about it because how in the world could they get a yes? I've been given extensions for deadlines that I definitely didn't expect to get. I've had my grade improved. And I've been pleasantly surprised before after telling someone how I felt.

You might be wondering how to ask for what you want. Well, all you really need to know is what you want. Then you probably need to think about how to get to what you want. The rest will come to you, I'm pretty sure.

I think we should all try to incorporate this sort of thinking in our everyday lives. Think about every little aspect of your interactions with others and how they can be improved. Maybe it's time you ask a friend to stop teasing you for something embarrassing. Maybe it's time to ask someone to start treating you with the respect you deserve. It can't hurt to try. 

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