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Being Your Own Best Friend

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Back in ye olden days of grade school, having a #1 best friend was always of utmost importance. Everyone had a best friend, and JUST one. It was a mutual bestie-ship, and if you didn't have a best friend, you might as well not have any friends at all.

As we get older, the rules of friendship change. We meet so many people and create so many close relationships that having a 'best friend' quickly becomes having a group of 'best friends.' 

But what's interesting is that defining someone as a best friend hasn't really lost all its value in society. As humans, we crave close relationships with people. We crave having one person to count on for everything, be it a shoulder to cry on or just someone to have non-stop laughs and shenanigans with.

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I guess the trend from grade school has kept going strong, but we basically put a lot of expectation onto our 'best friends.' And you know what I've discovered?

No matter how close you are, at some point, one of you is going to be disappointed in the other.

One of you is going to have high, set expectations for how your best friend is supposed to act, and when those expectations aren't met, disappointment sinks in and you start to question the value of your friendship. How could my BEST friend treat me this way?

Well, I've been there, and odds are you have too. This is why I've come to the conclusion that I am, in fact, my own best friend.

I think it's the most healthy thing you can do for yourself, in all honesty. 

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Believe it or not, not everyone enjoys their own company. A lot of people hate being alone and find themselves writhing in boredom when they're forced to be by themselves. Although it's completely understandable to not want to be alone, this is detrimental to your self-confidence and health.

At the end of the day, you are your own best friend because you not only know yourself better than anyone else on this planet, but your well-being doesn't concern anyone as much as it should concern you. And you're the only one who is in control of your emotions and health. Not your "best friend."

Most of us, myself included, struggle with self love. We fight self-loathing thoughts on a regular basis. But I've learned over time that in times of desperation and despair, I can always count on myself to lift myself up. I'm the only person capable of making me truly feel loved and worthy.

I wanted to share this because I know far too many people who place a lot of expectation on their friends, and I just want to let those people know that their own self-love and worth is more valuable than anything you can get from another person.

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